A Winter Story

aclotheshorse walking in the snow
I've gotten pretty good at letting less-than-positive comments roll off my back. I mean, I don't have the thickest skin in the world but I probably would have quit within the first year of blogging if I couldn't take a bit of critique. Most of the time the comments that affect me aren't even the mean ones, but just ones that hit a pet peeve or seem misplaced or the very personal and kind ones. I mean sometimes people write a comment so lovely I don't even know how to respond because it was too sweet and generous and any response would feel flat. The other day I received a comment that hit a pet peeve rather than being the lovely sort. The person said something along the lines of, "that's cute, but everyone already has that scarf." And I was felt like, "oh, we're still playing that game?" That game that if it's popular, it's bad. That game that if girls are interested in the same things, like Audrey Hepburn or macarons, that it's SO CLICHE. Like, have you seen Audrey Hepburn or eaten a macaron? They're only popular because they're so amazing! I feel the same way about my scarves; I've had this one from Modcloth for a couple of years now and I don't care how many people get it--it's amazing. In fact, it's something I would recommend to my friends to get. I mean blanket scarves can be "out" in fashion, but you can try to pry them from my cold, frost-bit fingers! I love a scarf that envelops me and I can use as a blanket when I'm not walking about. Wear it while out, come home and drape it over my legs when sitting on the sofa! It's one of my favorite winter accessories and I love all the winter accessories--knit hat and gloves that make my hands look like a giant's. You can try to make me feel uncool for having something that *gasp!* another woman owns, but it's not going to work.  aclotheshorse walking in the snow aclotheshorse walking in the snow
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33 comments:

  1. Ugh, so what if others have the same scarf? If you like you, you can wear it. Looking adorable and beautiful as always! ❤️🍃🙂

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
    http://charmainenyw.com

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  2. I'm still all in with blanket scarves. I'm a really cold person, so I need to be swaddled everyday just to get through and blanket scarves are a socially acceptable way of doing that.

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  3. The skirt matches simply perfectly with your hair! Wonderful pictures!
    With love from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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  4. I'm one of those horrid people who tend to lose all interest in something once it becomes so popular that people whose judgement and opinion I do not value at all - much on the contrary - start singing said thing's praises. And I have lost a few cool things because of that, I admit. Still, if someone I don't "like" wears, reads, sees, idolizes, does something I aways run the other way, and I must change that about me. Also, need to get myself thicker skin!!

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    1. I'm kind of the same way. Been wanting a pair of Frye boots for years, but when the local Younkers started selling them, I was like nope I don't want them anymore.

      For me there's something about having something clothing/accessories wise that is unique and possibly hard to find.

      It's a flaw, I know... I have learned to live with it & be honest it probably saved me a lot of money over the years.

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    2. I think there's a happy medium. I do find it hilarious when everyone suddenly has the same thing -- a couple of winters ago where I live, what seemed like thousands of women had the same green khaki coat with black leather sleeves from Zara. I would keep a running tally of how many of them I saw through the day (it ranged between 2 and 5; it was a rare day I didn't see any). If I had been interested in that coat, I definitely could not have imagined buying it after that.

      That said, we live in a world where many of us are going to own the same things, or similar things, and many items that are popular are popular for a reason. People should probably spend more time working on making their personalities distinct than their wardrobes.

      P.S. I neither own nor have ever seen this scarf, although there was a similar one that was popular here the year before the coat. I bought one for my sister, because it was awesome.

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  5. You look beautiful! I love your sweater and gloves! And scarf is also very pretty. There has been no snow at all this year in the Czech Republic where I live, so I envy you a little :D

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  6. First off, we should all be blessed we are able to purchase or receive clothing we like. There are way too many people in this world who can’t even afford shoes! Second, it’s not a style/trend/popular unless a lot of people wear it. Third, we are all inspired by someone or something. One can say I made this style, but in reality, they got it from somewhere.
    Also, I am pretty sure most of the people, the «everyone» in this case, got inspired by you and the clothes you buy. It has been a long time since I stopped caring about wearing the same thing as someone else, but I can clearly remember a pair of boots I got as a present from my mom, and a girl in my class who said she could never wear hers again because I wore the same ones.
    Now, at an age of 26, I’ll proudly walk around in the clothes and the STYLE you made me discover through your blog and social media, even if all your followers and fans wear the exact same thing. BECAUSE I LIKE IT! Thank you for inspiring me and have a happy, stylish, 2018!
    PS, I don’t own that scarf.

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  7. Nothing is new under the sun! As I turn 40 this year (what?!), I've been thinking a lot about the way I dress and how I always come back to how much I love to creatively express who I am through what I wear. This may include a trendy accessory that everyone loves because it is already established as awesome. As everyone else has already commented, I have been following your blog for years, can honestly say that your blog is my very favorite fashion/lifestyle/travel blog, and as a friend said recently, "You do YOU, baby." Haha. I still hope to blog more once my life is less crazy from life transition and you are definitely still inspiring me on that front. Much love and Happy New Year, Rebecca! :-)

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  8. And what I meant was, I've been thinking about what a 40 year old person should dress like as I don't want to look or dress like a 25 year old! :-)

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  9. That scarf truly is amazing and I appreciate that you don't let ridiculous comments like that get to you or influence how you dress. One thing that I love about your blog is that your style is very unique and classic.

    -Helen
    Sweet Helen Grace


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  10. This is the whole "Basic b*tch" thing which pisses me off to no end! And confuses me too- like things become popular because they're well liked, isn't that a good thing? And the fact that the name caller cares what other people like in such a way is... somehow not itself super lame? I can't stand people who use basic as an insult- why do they even care so much what other people like? Sure, don't buy into the next super trend if you don't want to, but who cares what other people like?

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  11. I actually really want that scarf, and I don't care if a hundred other people are wearing at the same time!

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  12. There are always going to be people who are unhappy or critical for one reason or another. I, for one, love blanket scarves, and I think the one you have is beautiful!

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  13. People are so annoying! They should let others enjoy/wear what they want regardless if some people may own it already. I love your sense of style and your outfits are always amazing!

    Linda
    https://lindatenchitran.com/

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  14. I love blanket scarves! I recently got one for Christmas and am in love with it. Your outfit today was lovely as always, keep up up the wonderful work!

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  15. I'm tempted to say it's most likely an age thing. Not trying to generalize too much here, but I wouldn't be surprised if the commenter was younger. At 37, I do and wear what I want and literally do not care what others think. Things I love that everyone has: hunter boots, blanket scarves, boots over skinny jeans, Sorel Joan of Artic boots, Madewell Transport tote. I feel like in a lot of cases, although not necessarily, confidence in our choices comes easier and more frequent the older we get.

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  16. I fell in love with that scarf the first time you posted it. It's amazing & I probably would've never tried one had I not seen it here first.

    Who cares if 100+ other people have it, everyone one of them is probably wearing it differently.

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  17. There is a big difference between someone who has a sense of style and someone who follows fashion. Some only wear what is current or trendy and some don't wear if something is trendy. You, on the other hand, blend pieces that create your own sense of style whether or not they are retro, modern, in or out. It's like your own brand now...your unique Rebecca style. So keep doing what you are doing and ignore petty comments. I'd recognize your style and sensibility in a minute...it's playful and whimsical, artful and creative. Keep at it!

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  18. You tell em Rebecca. I'm 80 now, and I wear what the heck I like. I don't care if its stylish, I don't care who does or doesn't wear it, and I don't pay any attention to the comments of my grandchildren. Being 80 is pretty good!!!! But you don't have to be 80 to have this attitude.

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  19. And by the way I love the color combinations in this post. You are lovely!!!!

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  20. I can't believe someone would say that, it is so silly. Who cares! They should see how hard it is to have a blog jeez
    xo
    www.laurajaneatelier.com

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  21. It's funny how people think that just because you're a fashion blogger you have to be oh-so-unique! Granted, your style is pretty peculiar and I don't see it super often in my feed; you're quite stylish in your own personal way! But that doesn't mean you can't enjoy something that everybody enjoys :3 After all, we do this blogging thing not only for our readers to enjoy and get inspired, but for ourselves as well!

    Sora | http://dangerouslyme.com/

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  22. I have to agree that you should wear what you like, and not worry about such comments. The only way that such a remark could be true is if someone chooses to dress a particular way simply because everyone else is doing so. "To thine own self be true...."

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  23. Love the message of this post! Anything that will keep me a little bit warmer is a winner in my book, regardless of whether it's unpopular or 'too' popular!
    Adore these pictures too ✨

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  24. absolutely agree with this! although it is sometimes nice to have those unique pieces all to yourself, the fact that someone else has the same thing or that something's popular really doesn't take anything away from you. anyway, the scarf is lovely and your whole outfit is so cute! and these pictures kind of make me wish i was spending more time outdoors in the snow instead of staying in and being lazy all the time, haha! xx

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  25. Sure, everyone already owns that scarf, but that doesn't mean I don't want to see how you everyone styles the scarf. Everyone owns ankle boots and hats, too, but it doesn't keep people from wanting to see and get inspired by how people style and showcase those items. If you like it, wear it!

    Katie | Katie Like Me

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  26. I know what you mean -- I love blanket scarves and will wear them long after they are trendy. They might not be trendy any more, but that doesn't stop my wearing them. Also, I love those mittens. They look so cozy!

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  27. Haha, indeed, how dare you wear a scarf, or a sweater, or even more shocking, shoes (!??) in the middle of winter? Why not wear tinfoil? Let haters be haters, but I'm afraid it's also become a clichéd hobby these days, so that person is probably not as original as he/she thinks he/she is.
    Even if I admit I can also lose interest or become quite suspicious regarding films, books or tv shows that are immensely popular (partly for fear of being disappointed and also because I know the themes tackled won't attract me) it doesn't mean one has to despise those who like them!
    Moreover, I find this critique unjustified, as I've always thought your blog was pretty special and original. But I may not be that objective as I love your blog (and have been a regular reader for years)

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  28. Not that it's appropriate for any blog but I find it rather amusing that someone posted that on YOUR blog when your style is by far the most unique out of all the blogs I follow. I enjoy all the blogs I read (otherwise I wouldn't read them of course!) but your pictures and style are always a breath of fresh air comparatively. Since I've never commented before, I'll take this opportunity to also let you know that my husband and I visited N. Ireland and Ireland from the states this past summer and we both miss it terribly. I looove seeing your pictures - they take me right back! Thank you!

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  29. While macaroons are probably also delicious, I think the trendy cookies you're thinking of are actually macarons. Just thought I'd point out they are different things :) Btw, everything you post is perfection and anyone who has anything negative to say is nuts..

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    1. You're so right! I fixed it in the post--thanks for pointing it out to me! And thank you!

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  30. Hi.
    You're rigth, let haters be haters... :)
    Have a lovely day.

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