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Field Of Dreams


Before I cut my hair in the winter I wrote a long-winded post on my tumblr about how I was itching to cut my hair but afraid of doing it at the same time. At some point in the last few years my hair became highly covetable--growing up no one ever really remarked on it, but recently I couldn't seem to leave my house without getting a compliment on my long hair from complete strangers. It was quite flattering and I began to get a bit attached to my long hair. When I started to contemplate cutting it I knew that with that choice I'd also be sacrificing the compliments associated with my hair and thus, one of the major sources of my physical beauty (as enforced by verbal affirmation). This launched me into thought about how attached I was to my hair and how I didn't want to be attached to my hair--I didn't want to feel some personal worth or beauty based on something as silly as hair. So, I decided that I needed to cut my hair--I wanted to cut my hair because I was bored with the long locks and I had to cut my hair to prove (to myself) that it wouldn't actually have a huge impact on my life.
Obviously, I took the plunge and haven't really looked back as I've experimented with a couple different cuts (I seem to go shorter every time I get a haircut). Sometimes I look in the mirror and feel incredibly androgynous and odd, but for the most part I really enjoy the way it looks--although it does not save me time in the morning as I actually have to style it to keep it from sticking straight up in places and when my hair was long I could skip brushing it or throw it into an easy braid. I suppose I'm addressing this now because I still am getting comments about how people miss my old hair; those comments are a drop in the ocean compared to the number of people who have complimented me on the pixie cut, but it just made me think how attached we become to certain things and how we like to impose these personal beauty ideals on others. While I might prefer things a certain way or dislike some change a friend makes--other people don't exist to cater to my preferences. I'm not saying I won't grow my hair out again one day, but this hair suits me right now, metaphorically speaking.

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46 comments:

Tinacious Me said...

this is so lovely! love the plaid on you!
~ www.Tinacious.Me ~

Amber Rose, Laughing With Broken Eyes said...

You have such a wonderful way of verbalizing your thoughts.

Ever since I can remember, I've always been dying my hair, each time a brighter and more vibrant shade. I knew that each time I hit the bottle (pun) I'd get 'compliments'-- well not so much as compliments but an 'oh, you dyed your hair!' remark. To me, that was just as good as any compliment because it meant that people noticed. It was all about the shock factor. So each and every month, I'd go do bright red, deep black, whatever color provided the most shock.

I realized that I was doing this as a sort of game.. or something along those lines, and finally returned to a nice golden-brown, my safe color. I've kept it this shade for the past five years, and while I don't get the 'wow' factor that I used to, and while I often feel like I blend in, I feel much more like myself. Returning to a normal color was, for me, scary because it meant that I wouldn't be the girl with the crazy hair anymore.. I'd just be myself.

This comment has gotten really long, but I just wanted to say that, as silly or insincere as this may sound, you really are an inspiration to me for doing what you want to do without letting your surroundings lead your choices.

KristiMcMurry said...

that's a beautiful dress! I am kind of where you were before you cut yours. My hair is suuuuuper long, but I'm starting to feel bored with it. I don't think I'll ever do a pixie because I had shirt hair in high school and it doesn't suit me as well as it suits you (face shape maybe?). Anyway, this might have just convinced me to cut some length off...I'm thinking about 10 inches. EEP! You just make such a good point about how we shouldn't attach our beauty to something physical. Shorter hair will not make me any less beautiful!

Angie said...

I love your look! :)
cutting your hair is a big change while waiting until it's long needs time and there's no of this 'wow' effect. but I hope it's worth it. at the moment I'm waiting ;)
but I'm not a very patient girl..
kisses from the bottom of the sea

Emily Peebles said...

I think that's really neat how you cut your hair shorter partly because you wanted to prove to yourself that it's silly to get attached to hair. I think a pixy cut suits you so well, not to mention it must be much cooler in summer without all that extra hair!

Viktorija. said...

Your tattoos are just soo amazing ;)

SoFashionistica said...

Good for you and well put! It is true that we easily get attached to certain things and find it hard to let go. I feel that not only is that true of physical beauty but also with life. I mean if you stop and think about it, we all get attached to things when we become comfortable, and most especially when those things mean alot to us.
But anyways, enough of the mumble jumble, I think you look great either with short of long hair. Very pretty!

Trina Mock said...

I LOVE this dress! I haven't seen your long hair, but the pixie is adorable on you!

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Zoƫ, Lion Heart Vintage said...

I love this post - it really articulates how making a personal change to your appearance (i.e. cutting your hair, getting tattoos, growing out body hairs, etc.) can be routinely policed and shamed by others as a way to reinforce dominant beauty ideals. I absolutely loved hearing your story of what led you to cut your hair - it's inspiring, honest, bold and resolute. I love how your current cut gives you a beautiful and complex contrast between androgyny and femininity. You have guts and spunk, and I ADORE how your blog embodies the many fascinating aspects of your character! :)

xoxo

kater said...

I love this hair on you. Before you cut it I couldn't have imagined it this short, but it just looks so wonderful!

I've struggled with hair worth. Mostly, I've tried to go shorter, bobs and things, and I just don't feel myself without it. I worry that maybe too much of myself is wrapped up in my hair, but I think I just enjoy it too much. We'll see!

Kristian said...

I don't know. I really liked your long hair, but I also really like this short hair too. Actually, I've been particularly enjoying your remix posts of late not only for the remixes themselves (fun!), but also to see your hair in all its different cuts as you were finding a new cut that fit what you wanted.

I think it can seem daunting to some to cut because it can take such a long time to get hair grown back out that long, but if one is bored with it...what's the point. You and your pixie cut are adorable and fresh and lovely.

Kristian said...

I don't know. I really liked your long hair, but I also really like this short hair too. Actually, I've been particularly enjoying your remix posts of late not only for the remixes themselves (fun!), but also to see your hair in all its different cuts as you were finding a new cut that fit what you wanted.

I think it can seem daunting to some to cut because it can take such a long time to get hair grown back out that long, but if one is bored with it...what's the point. You and your pixie cut are adorable and fresh and lovely.

Alana said...

I thought your long hair was beautiful, but I really love your short hair too. What I do miss are your longer blog posts, like this one. Lately it seems to be really short paragraphs that don't go into depth about anything. It just seems like you used to have more to say. Regardless, thanks for the posts everyday! I always look forward to them.

Pansy Lane said...

Oh wow, this describes perfectly how I felt about growing out my bob! I used to get SO many hair compliments on the short black bob, and I knew that changing colors and growing it out would sacrifice that, but at the same time I was sooo tired of it and knew it needed to go for now. I didn't want to feel attached to my hair either. Sometimes it's so freeing to just chop it off, or do the opposite like me and RESIST chopping it, haha!

(And that's always how pixie cuts work with me too, I go shorter and shorter each time.)

Mary said...

I know that feel - I spent a long time growing my hair out and loved having it long but always wanted to try chopping it off to a pixie cut and finally did so this last spring and am loving it! And you definitely look as lovely as ever and are so right, it suits you well. =)

sweet harvest moon said...

What a beautiful dress!

I always feel horrible after a haircut, I mostly cry for 2 days...
I think your short hair looks amazing on you!

Rebecca, The Clothes Horse said...

@Alana, thank you! I like longer posts too but I do feel like I have less to say...it's just hard to write something every day and I don't want to repeat or re-hash things that I wrote about before (altho I might)...

Teddi said...

good for you rebecca! i think you're ,in every hairstyle i've seen you in. :)

Becky said...

That dress is so pretty!

I know what you mean. My hair reached the small of my back and then I had it all cut off to just below my ears. It was so liberating and I have never looked back.

Becky
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A said...

I love the story behind your hair cut. Your hair looks great short, medium, and long! I've always been one to experiment with hair length. I find I prefer mine shortish because it is so heavy, but also because it is different to how most females seem wear their hair. Not to say that long hair is boring, it certainly is not. But different is good, and freeing.

Alex said...

Personally, I love the pixie cut on you! I think it does a good job of emphasizing your jaw structure, which makes you look stronger and more elegant.
I have the same problems with long vs. short hair. I think I look okay with short hair, and a lot of people think it looks cute, but I don't feel like I have the proper confidence for short hair.
Honestly, though, seeing how great you look makes me want to cut mine.

Catherine said...

These are such beautiful pictures. I can totally relate - when I dyed my hair from red to blonde, I got so many comments from people (I still get them, even though it was over a year ago) saying how they miss my red hair, how I'm plain "boring" now, etc. (Seriously - I'm boring? And yet they're the ones passing judgment on me based on the color of my hair?!)

It's strange the way people are attached to it - especially considering it isn't even their own! I think you look incredibly beautiful both ways. I love your pixie cut; it's beautiful and feminine in a totally new way apart from your old style (which was beautiful too). I think your change is exciting, and if hair did say anything about a person, yours would say that you aren't afraid to try new things.

Love the dress on you, too. So angelic!

Helen said...

A very thoughtful post. It's strange how people sometimes feel they can take ownership of someone's hair. I have many friends who've said they'd 'never' cut their hair because 'my boyfriend likes my hair long'. My ex boyfriend was fairly possessive over my hair, I cut it short to spite him, then grew it again when we split up- how ridiculous! It's only hair!

Q's Daydream said...

love what you had to say :O)
it's funny i've been thinking of growing my hair into a bob, as you know.. but i'm not sure i'm willing to get rid of my pixie. as odd as it seems i feel prettier with less hair on my head and do get many more compliments.

pulchritude said...

The pixie cut works really well on you! I got my hair cut super short back in September and got a few cruel comments as a result. But I'm the same way - I cut my hair shorter each time. It's nice not to be afraid of having short hair. I'm glad I took the risk. I think it's something everyone should experience because we don't realize how much our identity is wrapped up in our hair. - Leah

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Mariana said...

I really liked your reflection about getting attached to things because of other people's reinforcements or comments... In the end, it is us who have to decide what to get attached to, and then us who have to decide when it's no longer good to stay attached. Both things are good - being attached, letting go - depending on our situations and needs really... but we each have to make the decision of what we need ourselves, not base on other people's opinions.
It's interesting you started this reflection talking about hair, but i can be applied to so many things :)
In any case, and just to reinforce your current choice - you look lovely with the pixie cut ;)

Peta said...

you rock all lengths of hair. I don't think i'd ever be brave enough to get the pixie but it suits you so much!

Winnie said...

You're so right about attachments to hair and people imposing their ideals on you. I decided to go for the whole perm thing while i was in HK after a little encouragement from my family. I like it, but like your pixie cut, it
hardly hassle free and requires some styling in the morning too. Anyway, I digress but I like both hair styles!

Abbey Crain said...

Okay, so you kind of verbalized everything that went through my head before I got my hair cut. Wow, I don't think I realized I thought all those things but yes, that was exactly how I felt. I hate those androgynous days. I just put on some winged eyeliner and quick looking in the mirror. Though the complements are fewer, my self worth is greater.

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Kimberellie said...

I really love your hair short. I have often had my hair short in the past and EVERY time I see your hair short I want to cut mine again.

Only I am trying to grow it all the way down my back so that I can donate it (my mom died of cancer last year). And so I am motivated to grow it long. Only I do so love short hair! Well, I must add that I also like long hair.

I think when my hair is short, I envy long haired lasses and when it is long, I envy short haired misses! Truly-it's terrible.

Though the thing about short hair I really miss is: no shedding of long ick hairs. ick.

bestie said...

like most of your other readers, i too am a big fan of your pixie cut. i think it is precious and edgy all at once, which is a very good thing in my book. i did also love your long locks, but actually, what i miss more is the short bob. it might be my favorite length on you. (:

i find that most people really do tend to get attached to their hair (i am certainly not an exception), especially if it has established their identity - or part of their identity - in some way. it is only natural that a lot of us are inclined to second guess our thoughts about certain things, even something as personal as cutting our own hair, because of input or advice given my outsiders -- whether solicited or not. that said, i truly admire the way you've been handling this whole "hair issue" because i do constantly see those comments about your old hair and it's like, GEEZ, get over it already. haha.

point is: you look great and it's obvious that you LOVE the way your hair looks right now so everyone will just have to deal with it. (;

Trisha said...

wow, you just verbalized my thoughts EXACTLY. i recently just cut my hair for the very same reasons. i have only had the pixie for a few days now, but it was very liberating to face that insecurity.

Tricia said...

It also suits you aesthetically speaking - I'm jealous! I'd kind of like short hair like you but I think that cut looks much better on petite girls, and I'm tall. :(

Beautifully Pure said...

Aw, you look so pretty with that dress + your hair! ♥

I think part of the reason so many people comment on your hair is because a lot of times we consciously or unconsciously live vicariously through the bloggers we read. People want long, red hair like yours, but cannot/do not for whatever reason, and live through your lovely hair. Then you cut it off, and they no longer have anyone to live through. ;)

I love long hair for myself, but the pixie cut suits you, and I'm glad you enjoy it. ♥

Rebecca, The Clothes Horse said...

@Beautifully Pure, That can be flattering to an extent, but placing someone on a pedestal/idolizing some aspect of their person is a way to dehumanize them. I am not my hair and people's fascination with my hair over what I prefer for myself is a way of saying that the way I look to them is more important than my personal happiness or what I want for myself. Every comment that states "why did you cut your hair" and "you were so pretty before" reminds me that it doesn't matter if I'm happy--I failed to please others with my appearance.
I know you mean it as a compliment, but I hope you understand the dangerous logic behind those sorts of comments. It's what I'm trying to address in this post; it's not "oh I made a big change wow" but about how this is a way for me to remind myself and others that while this is a visual and fashion blog my appearance is not my worth.

Anna Decker said...

I completely agree. Until my senior year of high school I had long, wavy hair. For me, it was a pain in the ass to style, and I wish I knew the products and tricks then that I do now. And every year since then I seem to cut it shorter and shorter [I, too, sport the Jean Seberg pixie]. I have so many friends who can never cut their hair as short as mine - mostly because it's their safety blanket. It's honestly refreshing to just cut it all off. The only downside is I've been mistaken for a boy a few times [from small children] and sometimes wonder if I should grow my hair out again [I hate how short hair is associated with masculinity]. It's silly how attached we all can be to something like hair. It's just hair. And it grows back.

Anyway, you raised some very good points today and i admire your courage to do what you please without the influence from others. And for the record, you look great in every length of hair you choose to wear!

GrytaJME said...

I loved it long, and I love it short. I do kind of miss pictures of it long, but not in a way that I want it back. It's like missing a good vacation; I don't want to have it exactly the same all over again, I just like remembering it, and maybe someday I'll go back and have a different adventure there.

I found it especially fun when you cut your hair because at the time I was contemplating doing the same to mine, for the same reasons you just listed. I haven't yet (I've been involved in some theatrical productions that required long hair), but I plan to at some point. I love seeing how you style your short hair with headbands and hats and garlands of flowers, and, even though there seem to be more things to do with long hair, you make a pixie cut exciting.

Bianca said...

I have also cut my hair very short (but quite similar to yours) and gosh that bed hair is just the WORST! I am often tempted to sleep in a beanie just to make sure it stays all in one place/save time the following morning! I should probably also mention that the cut looks gorgeous on you!

Kayla said...

This is such a lovely post, you are so eloquent and have such a way with words. I loved what you had to say. I think that it is so easy to think of ourselves based on the affirmations of others. However, I have learned that it can be so dangerous to do so, since peoples opinions can change so quickly. Not saying I still don't struggle with it, but it is something that I notice more when I do it. Also, I am personally of the opinion that a person's physical appearance should not dictate what people say about their style, on a style blog. While ones physical appearance does affect how clothes look on them, it is not what I notice. I draw inspiration from clothing and styling, not physical appearance. Anyways, I thought that this post was full of beautiful thoughts and I absolutely loved this outfit. That dress is amazing.

On a side note, your photos are stunning. Thanks so much for sharing! Have a lovely day!

Marlene said...

I think your short hair is perfect on you. I have never left you a comment, but I have checked out your blog from time to time since I found it on flickr wardrobe remix, and that was a while ago! I totally "get" your short hair, and I think it lets your individual style shine through better than your long hair did. Good stuff!

Marlene said...

I think your short hair is perfect on you. I have never left you a comment, but I have checked out your blog from time to time since I found it on flickr wardrobe remix, and that was a while ago! I totally "get" your short hair, and I think it lets your individual style shine through better than your long hair did. Good stuff!

Meli said...

I know just how you feel. I cut my hair last summer, although not quite as drastically as you. Right now I'm working on growing it back out, just because I miss being able to braid it. At the same time, I'm really not looking forward to how it sticks to me when I get sweaty, or having to brush it again. I also am tempted to cut it pixie short once I get sick of it being long again, but everyone has told me that they miss my long hair too.. Eventually I will do it, but it's hard when everyone says that I look so much better, more girly, with it long.

daria said...

I had my hair short two years ago, and though it felt boyish at the time, I like the pictures from that back then. I was considering cutting it again and I was thinking I want a cut like Rebecca's :) I think I've been reading your blog more since you cut your hair, I don't know why!

Jamie Rose said...

I love that you cut your hair off! Your new hair cut looks amazing on you. I hate when girls get so attached to their hair too. I always remind people that it will grow back if you decide you don't like your shorter hair cut. I'll definitely be cutting mine short sometime in the near-ish future. I actually used to keep mine pretty short up until a couple years ago so I totally love short hair. You rock yours!

Anonymous said...

I've only started reading your blog in the last 4 months or so, and boy was I shocked when I saw your long-hair pictures. Your hair type is gorgeous, thick, and the most amazing color! I am a cropped-hair girl of 5 years--my long hair looked mousey and never really suited me--so I can see where you're coming from about maintenance and other people's expectations. I think a lot of girls getting the chop these days cite those reasons.
But I've just got to say that I hope you do go back to long locks someday because you have such a lovely hair type. When you've got it, work it!

czarianonuevo said...

i've been a reader of your blog way before you got short hair. I honestly was caught by how you styled your long locks and add amazing vintage wreaths and accessories to it. Though it was a (continuous) surprise seeing your hair got shorter and shorter, I still admire you and your style. Your new 'do shows so much of your personality. You look beautiful as always Rebecca!



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