Outfit: Stressed, A Mess, Still Getting Dressed

When I was offered the chance to try out a stress-relieving product from RESCUE, my response was an enthusiastic yes. I've been trying to avoid talking about my stresses on the blog for a number of reasons (people just want to see pretty pictures, whatever is affecting me is minuscule compared to others' struggles, writing about certain worries would give them more weight, etc), but my stress levels are at an all-time high lately. In the end my problems might not compare to others, but my blog has always been about sharing my personal experiences--I've talked about insomnia in college, feeling ugly, and being undateable, so it's weird to not share that I'm feeling overwhelmed. Trying to sort out moving overseas, fixing up our future home, visas, financial worries and wedding details is taking a toll on me mentally and physically.
While being productive and around Thomas for a few weeks has definitely helped, I'm also trying to be smart about how I deal with stress. The thing is even when my current issues are sorted new problems will arrive in the future--I can't prevent myself from experiencing stress but I can start to improve the way I deal with it. So, I've been using my wide-awake nights to follow yoga videos on Youtube and practice my breathing. I've been taking time out to just lose myself in a good book (the one place I can truly forget everything else). I also make time to paint my nails; it's a small pampering thing but in addition to making my nails look more festive but also helps me clear my head so my thoughts can temporarily stop racing.
And for the past week I've been carrying RESCUE pastilles around in my purse to chew on whenever I start to feel overwhelmed. I tried out the Elderflower flavor since I've really liked Elderflower after having it for the first time this past summer when Thomas's mother made Elderflower juice from scratch. The pastilles are sweet and light and in addition to being natural and non-habit forming, the flavor now reminds me of a bright summer day and why all this current stress is worth it. If you're interested in trying them out yourself, you can get a special coupon by following this link.
Does anyone care to share their tips for how they manage stress? I could use some pointers!

Outfit details:
old cardigan (DIY tutorial here)
old oxfords (similar)
old purse
*pictures by Thomas

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.


Jennifer said...

"I can't prevent myself from experiencing stress but I can start to improve the way I deal with it."

That's a wonderful mindset to have, and something I'm now inspired to do. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. :) I lifted a prayer for you, and wish you all the best on the wedding front. Life seems crazy now, but remember that this is just a season. You'll get through it. <3

Nikki Williams said...

LOVE those sunnies!

xx nikki

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for sharing this post, Rebecca! This is just what I needed to read. xo

Lexie said...

I love your nails! They are so playful! I never make time to paint my nails. I think I'm very high stress naturally, but I think I could definitely work on how I handle it. I think I will start making time to paint my nails once a week! It is a very mind-calming exercise, forcing you to focus on the task at hand rather than all the worries!

Diamond Dann said...

Wow! What an incredible outfit!

Tessa said...

I use and love a lot of products by Rescue Remedy! I have yet to try them , but i hear their sleep drops work wonders~


CBoulter said...

Trying to deal with stress I try one, some or all of these in various stages :)
1. Figure out what I need re: processing it all. Do I need some time alone? Or to talk it through with a friend or family member? Then do that.
2. Divide my stresses into things I can control and things I can't. Work on the former, try and shrug off the latter.
3. Go for some exercise. This always works even on a grey rainy day. You never regret it. Yoga, walking, cycling, doesn't matter. It grounds you and takes you out of yourself. It can also help you process things and come back maybe not with a solution after that exercise but at least having processed it through in your mind.
4. Do something that always cheers you up. A silly movie, trashy websites, sketching, whatever. Find something fun to do every day.

Carolyn said...

I moved across the US from my family nearly a year ago, and I often feel a lot of stress from that and my first job. Trying breathing exercises when I'm trying to fall asleep through stress often works for me.

Miriam said...

I've a little experience in being stressed! Having a chronic illness means I need to try to manage it though and not let it get out of control.

Mindfulness body scan meditations great for helping me to let go of stress. You should be able to find some guided body scans online for free.

I've also found keeping a gratitude journal can help. THinking of 5 things to be thankful for every day puts things in perspective.

Being in nature, especially by the sea always helps to melt my stress away.

Hugs are great for helping to get rid of stress!

Sometimes talking to someone helps.

I hope the stress eases up a little soon & that you find good ways to manage it.

Vicki said...

i have tried a number of things for stress including medication from my doctor but I have found fresh air, walks, reading books and focusing on bretajing to be the best cures. :) rescu remedy is great too though :) x

Marissa H Suddreth said...

I can relate to stress... And while I never want to make my struggles seem more important than someone else's, I know how taxing it can be-- 2014 was one of the hardest, most stressful years from me and I am still coming out of it. I really like how you incorporated this sponsor into your outfit post, it was really cute and clever!

larkspurvintage.com said...

I wish I knew ways to deal with stress, whenever I get highly stressed, which is often, I just become a mess. I've been sort of reading a lot about peoples personal experiences and how they deal and then making note and trying out some things to see if they help me at all. They do and sometimes they don't. Anyways, thanks for sharing. I always appreciate when bloggers get real. I fear being too open sometimes, but when it comes down to it, personally, I like when people open up, so I shouldn't worry too much I guess. I hope you are managing okay, it is indeed a stressful time for you <3 xx

Anonymous said...

I definitely understand feeling stressed. Deep breathing, yoga, and treating myself help a lot. Sometimes you just need to give yourself some care. One strategy you can use to handle stressful tasks is to break up the task into manageable steps.