The Perfect Place

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I was visiting my grandmother's recently and had a pleasant, familiar feeling walking around her house and admiring the decor that hasn't changed since I was a child. I saw the little figurines I was desperate to play with when I was little in her what-not-shelf, washed my hands in the shell shaped sink I always thought was so chic, and ate dinner at the kitchen table looking over at a vintage tin and upholstered chair that again stirred childhood memories. It struck me how nice it was to always go back to her house and find it the same, because you see, my family was frequently moving. I had always counted states and countries before to make a list of our previous homes, but sitting in my grandmother's house I did a quick mental tally of houses I had lived in over the years. 20. Twenty different houses, apartments, etc. Someone remarked to me recently that after living in so many places I ought to have a clear idea of when I get to live somewhere nice (because obviously there's going to be some duds in your journey!) and while I do think that is true, part of what makes a place nice or special isn't down to the place itself, but your willingness to appreciate it. There's no perfect place in my opinion, every place will have its faults and you take your self and your problems and neuroses every place you go, so no place will transform you or your life into perfection. If you're shy in one place, you'll be shy when you move. If you bicker with your family, you're not suddenly going to develop a new way of interacting with people just because you relocated. Sure some places are better than others or even just better suited for you--like living in the country puts me more at ease than a city--but I'm still me whether I live in the countryside of the US or Ireland. What I have learnt though is a place or house is what you make of it. Do you enthusiastically embrace all that location has to offer, or do you dwell on the faults? Do you walk out your door trying to find something to appreciate, or are you looking for something to complain about? I certainly love where I live now and it's probably my favorite place to have ever lived--country and house!--but it's not the great scenery or funny accents that make me love it so much. It's that I'm here with someone I love dearly and because I've become so much better at appreciating everything. I'm the first to self-deprecate when someone compliments my house, but I find myself daily sitting in my window seat thinking "how charming is this house!" "I'm so glad we painted the wall that color!" For now, this is my favorite, imperfect place, but I know when the time comes to move what I can make the next place my new favorite. What that requires isn't specific to geography or home decoration, but comes from enthusiastically embracing all that new home has to offer. greenhouse-26 greenhouse-25
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19 comments:

  1. You're beautiful, Rebecca! I agree with your view when it comes to appreciating a thing. It's how you see it! ❤️❤️

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
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  2. Lovely pictures and editing but the story I especially love ;)

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  3. I absolutely love your style, and this is probably one of my favorite posts of yours so far!

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  4. Your style is beautiful!!! �� absolutely love this post ����

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  5. This is such a lovely post! So positive. I've lived in a lot of student houses and run down places, so I have learned to appreciate the nice flat I live in now. That's partially because I live alone, when I used to always have people around. It means I can actually make use of my whole place, rather than being confined to my room!

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  6. I feel like that! We just moved states and moved from a city to the suburbs. It's hard missing out on all we had in the city and I miss my old house. But I love to find things to fall in love with where I am! No use dwelling on what I don't have. The suburbs here are gorgeous and our little apartment is just wonderful! I'm loving it!! Great post!!

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  7. Your story is very heartwarming ❤ you look super happy and somehow more mature (not old, just peaceful). Cheers!

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  8. Appreciating where you are can be one of the hardest things, I'm glad you've found that happiness and peace!!

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  9. Hi rebecca! I have difficulties seeing what good of a life I actually have and tend to focud on faults... it's just hard. But important to keep apreciating the good things. Love the bow on your dress

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  10. Thank you so much for your inspirational posts! I always look forward to your positivity and gorgeous style.
    I am looking to upgrade my blog and I was wondering whether you had any suggestions as to what mainframe or platform works best?

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  11. Wish everyone could read this post. So wise. Thank you.

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  12. Summer looks beautiful where you live! And that dress is so pretty and feminine, I love your style ❤️

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  13. I love this story, the little details about your grandmothers house. Also love how our hair matches the little orange flowers ��

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  14. I love the story you shared, you have such a gift for writing and photography. Your instagram feed is amazing btw. Such an inspiration��

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  15. Such a beautiful dress :-) I want one :-)

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  16. Such lovely photos - I adore your handbag! ✨

    https://blushingshadow.blogspot.com

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  17. Holy cow, what a garden! You're right - no place is perfect, but that's ok. It's all about perspective :)

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  18. Your dress is so pretty, I love the bow
    xo
    www.laurajaneatelier.com

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