The Private Life Of Personal Style Bloggers


When I first started writing my blog I didn't really discuss what I was wearing (when I actually posted outfits); I figured the pictures would do the talking for me and used my words to muse on other subjects. However, as my blog popularity has grown I feel less comfortable discussing personal topics here. Believe it or not, I would prefer to not bare my soul to an Internet full of strangers! I also don't think it is right to compromise the privacy of my friends or family who have chosen not to have blogs. Fairly often I appear to live in total isolation, but while I am not a very social girl there are people I interact with in real life! There are dramas and stories to tell about their lives that overlap and affect my own, but is it really my place to discuss my part in them if it leads to compromising another's privacy? I think not and since I have total control over what is revealed and hidden on this blog there is a quite a lot that goes unsaid. So, until I find more interesting and non-invasive things to write about you might be left with musings on my outfits, complaints about the weather, and anecdotes about my lack of grace...

Outfit details:
Clothes Horse dress c/o Modcloth
self-made bow belt
Seychelles shoes from my sisters
Modcloth necklace
filigree ring via Gilt

This is probably the only dress in my closet that is this beige/nude color; it's the sort of color I worry will wash me out. However, this dress has been getting a lot of wear, so perhaps I should rethink my usual palette?

CONVERSATION

76 comments:

  1. I love every piece of this outfit! And these yellow flowers are so beautiful!

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  2. You have amazing style and that dress is lovely. You always take your photos in such lovely settings.

    I agree about keeping personal life out of it. I might tell a little story around a few photos etc, but I keep it to a minimum and never talk about friends or family, all me me me haha, but to be honest there's barely anything on me either.

    Lydia xxx

    http://allthingsnicestyle.blogspot.com/

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  3. I get really washed out by that color too, although the dress always looks gorgeous on you.

    And I can see the relinquishing of personal information from different points. I think some bloggers get caught up in their audience and tell more about their personal life. Unlike you, who still wants to keep your blog strictly fashion oriented. I don't think either stand point is wrong, just different.

    P.S. I always love your GIFs!

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  4. I totally agree. A fashion blog is about fashion, clothes, NOT ones personal life!

    That aside, I love your blog and the photos you post!

    How did you get those "moving photos". I want to get some too! lol

    http://www.RebequitasFashionBlog.BlogSpot.com

    Rebequita Rose

    xxx

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  5. I agree, my creative writing sucks so I try to substitute with my pictures. I'm still trying to figure out where my blog is going. However it is fun to write in!

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  6. I don't give away much personal life, and if I do, it's normally humourous, and pretty light hearted. I think some blogs become to caught up in their own drama's, and It's a biut like, 'I don't want to know' I just want to see where you bought those shoes.
    that dress is relatively epic.

    INTOTHEFOLDFASHION.BLOGSPOT.COM

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  7. i agree that the internet is not the place to detail one's life, especially not if it compromises that of others. like my mom was telling me last night, the age old saying of my rights end where those of others begin.
    also: your gifs are so creative! i can almost hear the wind whooshing in these :)

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  8. I definitely understand what you're saying about not keeping the blog too personal. I suppose mine has grown more personal in time but when I include pictures of friends, I always ask permission or alter the pictures in some way.

    I think your blog is fine the way it is though!

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  9. "... When I give, I give myself." And that is my personal blog. Never all. But portions of myself, my life, my struggles. I think it is best to do whatever it is that you feel comfortable with. And if it discussing outfits and it works for you, then keep on keeping on :)

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  10. That's why I love reading your blog. It's full of insight and wander and you never tell too much. Your blog is definitely a major source of my inspiration!

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  11. I always find it interesting when bloggers share a bit of their personal lives, helps make them seem more accessible.
    Love the dress! Especially the bow :]

    -Juliette WhereForArtThouRomeo

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  12. I'm going to officially say it: i LOVE your blog. I do appreciate that you stay "on point" on this personal style blog. I really appreciate you valuing your loved ones privacy, and personally I enjoy the complete lack of gossipy tone your blog writing/musings have. It feels arty and refreshing to come here, to see what you're wearing, how you put it together in your always beautiful photo style.

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  13. when i started blogging, it was a completely anonymous affair. i didn't tell anyone about it and i barely interacted with anyone, so i shared quite a bit. when i found the style blog community and got more readership, it became harder and harder for me to share personal stories without feeling like i was compromising other people. it's definitely a hard balance. there are certain people in my life who have given "the ok" to be written about on my blog (my boyfriend, best friend, sister, and a few others), but now that i am about to embark on student-teaching, i think i will have to hone in the personal stuff big time for fear of trouble in the work place! blogging is a really tricky venue for expression, that's for sure.

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  14. i love your style ... dress is beautiful!!! <3 <3

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  15. I really like that belt! Sometime will you do a DIY tutorial on it (even though I'm sure it's fairly simple)?

    I think the color of that dress really compliments your hair color!

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  16. This outfit is just beautiful!
    I love that belt.

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  17. Well said, Rebecca. I only wish I could be as socially responsible as you are. As you know, I tend to overshare to the point where I needed to start an entirely new blog haha. I've learned my lesson, but every so often I'll write something and then have to delete it because it's too personal, ok, not too personal, too revealing of those close to me. However, I like sharing, and if you don't then that's just your prerogative. I find that your photos are so beautiful and your eye for detail in outfits is so great, that I really feel as if nothing is missing from your blog.

    Thanks so much for your recent comments on my posts. I must admit, after writing a post on the nature of blogging I am so sick of the conversation myself that I want to smack my head into a wall and just go back to normal. I think you're smart to realize that your audience is not a bunch of prissy bloggers, but readers who don't care about politics. Thanks for being honest there. I dislike drama for the sake of drama and try not to get too involved in it, but even I sometimes can't help myself. Thanks for reminding me that blogging isn't all about trying to impress people and follow the political blogging trends, but just doing whatever you want

    I really love the setting of these photos, I wonder what that yellow flower bush is? Such a striking color, I would totally wear that shade of yellow lol

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  18. First, Rebbecca, that dress is one of my favorites of yours, and I think that it really does not wash you out but works well with your hair color. :)

    I think that you balance the personal with the blog very well. You mention things like taking trips with friends, listing to music, films, you like etc. Enough little personal things that let the readers know that you are human, and they can connect with you. I think you have an awesome blog, and I truly enjoy your posts.

    PS-I love this yellow bush, these pics remind me of late summer, early autumn, very pretty :)

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  19. I don't think it washes you out at all, you look lovely! It's a beautiful dress and the bow belt is the perfect touch. And contrary to your lack of grace, the text of this post was a very graceful explanation of content. As per usual, this post is filled with beauty of all sorts.

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  20. *or rather, contrary to your perceived lack of grace.

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  21. That dress/bow belt! So amazingly beautiful!

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  22. The last photo, rather the GIF, is really great. I love seeing your GIFs because they're always unexpected and are able to show so much more than just a still. :)

    Well, I've had the same sort of dilemma since I started blogging. I don't know how much of my personal life I should share on the net. While I would like readers to 'get to know me' I am not really comfortable talking about friends, family or boys.But I didn't think I could make a good blog without sharing things like that.

    Then I realized blogs such as Clothes Horse and Cherry Blossom Girl- they mainly show photographs and discuss style, art or travel. They don't delve much into the personal stuff and it's okay. The blog becomes more like a venue to tell a story or share something but mainly through pictures. I think that is what I would be comfortable with too.

    So thank you!

    B from A plus B

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  23. wow! amazing photos- truly beautiful and inspiring! love it!

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  24. i love the outfit in combination with the yellow flowers, lovely!
    And I totally agree with not sharing to much personal information. My blog is mainly pictures, random, outfit, myself and my son roy. My sister don't want her picture on the internet. So i only show pictures of myself and my son.

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  25. Yeah, I know what you mean about revealing personal things. i've occasionally posted photos with my friends, but I try not to do it too often.

    http://itscohen.blogspot.com/

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  26. you combined the dress in a good way and looks beautiful in each versions. i adore you. btw i love Nasha too. She's really cute. :)


    Flickering Moonlight

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  27. I really love your blog! And these photos are beautiful! :)

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  28. Such an interesting post. At the beginning, I added photos of me with friends, my boyfriend and family to my blog. As its popularity grew, I stopped and focused on me. You're right - we chose to bare our souls in such a public format, but they did not.

    Love the dress - the colour definitely suits you!

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  29. Personally, I think the interesting paradox about my blog is that I want and am eager to share personal anecdotes about myself, but am hesitant to share anything short of where I live, what school I go to, what I ate for breakfast that day, etc. I realize that in the case of which school I attend would be easy to figure out if one reads all of my posts... but I was still uneasy when I saw that one of my readers deduced it. However, you and the other commenters are right: you're responsible for whatever you put on your blog, and since I've consciously chosen to make it public, then I get my just desserts.

    Not to say that it's all bad. On the other hand, I love that putting myself out there allows me to interact and see what other bloggers have shared. It's a tenuous give and take.

    Know what I just realized? First Elizabeth at Delightfully Tacky brings up the sensitive issue of the infamous "courtesy of," then you bring up the interesting topic of privacy in public blogging. Is there a blogger education week that I wasn't aware of? :)

    Sorry for the long rambling: I'll end this with saying that I love how you've remixed this dress. Whenever I look at my closet and think about remixing, I automatically think of you, no joke!

    Toast with Charmalade

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  30. there are a million personal things I've never said on my blog, I 100% get it.

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  31. I love the socks with the sandals! The belt is really gorge too, it doesn't look homemade at all - nice job!

    xoxo, Ashley @ freehoney.blogspot.com

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  32. i love it!! that dress is phenomenal on you!!! i dont think you're washed out by the color at all!! :D

    Animated Confessions

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  33. Argh, I wish they would bring back this dress. I wasn't quick enough to get one. :)

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  34. Rebecca, I'm sorry if this post was prompted by someone being rude about the way you blog. I honestly think your blog is just right!
    Gorgeous outfit! I always love your GIF's.

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  35. oh lady, i completely and utterly respect the restraint you use when you blog. and like danika jane said, i hope that someone wasn't rude enough to suppose there should be expectations on any blogger to reveal private information about their lives.

    what i enjoy most about your blog is that the pictures combined with your writing creates a very intimate, other-worldly, escapist feel. it's obvious that you value this blog as a home away from home, a haven to explore your creativity, rather than a place to vent or find emotional validation (not that that's wrong either, but people have different reason's for having a blog).

    keep it up!

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  36. Hi! I've been following your blog for the past few weeks now and I love your demure but colorful style. The photos you take are beautiful because the scenery perfectly complements your outfits!

    Thanks so much for giving me inspiration and I respect your right to privacy!!

    Please check out my blog if are inclined :): amuseforwords.blogspot.com

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  37. love the bow belt. & you make a good point on privacy, some people tell all but it's so important i think to draw the line

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  38. I hear yah, girl. Sometimes I feel silly talking about my outfit and the weather, but my social life is relatively limited and I don't really feel like talking about my private life. Luckily I have the Winnebago to talk about, so at least I have something interesting to update occasionally.

    And don't worry about the people who are talking shit about your blog. Your blog was the first one I ever read and inspired me to start my own, it's been really wonderful reading and watching you and your blog grow. You're still one of my favorite bloggers.
    :)

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  39. this has to be my absolute favorite outfit post. you look so amazingly gorgeous! and i hear you about the personal stuff. i usually blab about how my day goes, but not how things are affecting my mood or anything that would give a negative influence.

    xoxo
    lyndsey


    www.hellolyndseyyy.blogspot.com

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  40. Ooh you look so beautiful! Once again I love your outfit to bits!

    Don't mind about only writing non-private things. It's the same with me, I always think about what to tell and what not before writing because although there is this amazingly friendly and cute blogger community, some things should remain private after all! It's not our problem if others thin we're naive, only talking about clothing and the weather. They don't see that we're actually pretty clever to not explain our private life to millions of people without knowing them ;)

    So hooray for talking about weather, clothing and Winnebagos (I saw the comment above ^_^)!

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  41. Thanks for your second comment. In regards to what you wrote about your sisters, I've never cleared my blog with any of my friends, unlike Lexie wrote above, I've never asked permission to write about anyone, maybe I should. But I do kind of like to keep the blog my own little secret hobby. Only my parents really know about it. I know that seems contradictory considering my blog itself isn't very private, I do tend to share a lot, but it's nice knowing I have a social outlet not every person in the real world can see unlike say Facebook. I feel like I can be more honest about my own personal issues there than I can to friends in person. Also the stuff I tend to write is more about myself, if I do mention others I usually change names and only write positive things (even though my relationship with them isn't always positive). I try not to rant anymore about people because it's unfair to them, after all they don't know I'm writing about them and therefore can't defend themselves, and it just creates a negative atmosphere I don't need. I've never confirmed with my friends that I can mention them, but since I rarely write anything negative I think it's fine, well I hope it is.

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  42. I definitely understand the line between blogs and personal lives. Sometimes I do get extremely tempted to vent, even if I'm just ranting about experiences that only include me! However, I always find myself embarrassed, even though I don't have as large of a fan/reader base as you, I always end up deleting the post.

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  43. i love each and everyone of these outfits. your photography and vids are amazing as usual. the colors of the foliage in that first photo are striking.

    i love that last photo of you most of all, because you look sweet, shy, lovable, and pretty.

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  44. i think you just need to do what makes you comfortable in terms of your own privacy and to honor that. it's important and respectful of yourself and your readers.

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  45. Ive missed your blog! ahh nice to know it hasnt changed a bit =]

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  46. First off, you have made broom look lovely. And that is quite the feet considering how I hate that nasty weed!

    Secondly, you look lovely! I think this just might be the right beige for you. I too, look horrid in nudes and beiges, but every so often one comes along that works with my skin tone. This I think must be yours.

    Thirdly, what you wrote had me clicking frantically over to my blog to make certain I wasn't thoughtlessly showcasing family and friends on my blog. Because I write a lot. And then when I looked I realised I was safe (because you are right, one does not want to do that). Only that left me thinking, what in the world am I writing about? And the answer appears to be: a lot of nonsense.

    But I will definitely keep this in mind as I continue to blog. On a side note: (boy this is getting long) do you ever come across the blogs where people "cut their heads off" in the pics? I mean, I think it is sort of strange, but I also sort of get it. I guess we are all different with how much of ourselves we feel like revealing.

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  47. All I know is that you live by the best photo backgrounds ever.

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  48. your setting, and outfit are lovely, i love the knee socks and the belt. Its interesting what you say about personal topics, I am really paranoid about internet safety and don't really feel comfortable recounting the minute dramas of my life (nothing on the internet dies after all) already I've had a few people in real life stumble across my blog, I don't want anyone to find anything I don't want them to see. As secluded as we feel in our little blogs, they are public pieces of internet that anybody could find.
    -indigo
    ps: What is this bush called? It is delightful!

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  49. I agree with you about not telling private stories.
    I love your outfit very much, in particular the bow belt.

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  50. Fabulously worded! I too fear about what to say and what not to say. I find i get into a routine of talking about my life and now its hard to break out of it and talk more about other topics... I love that u have inc images of you wearing the dress in different posts, love seeing the different ways you've worn it.

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  51. First of all I want to say that I really enjoyed reading through all the comments.

    What I really admire in your blog Rebecca is that you find a very creative way to discuss about your clothes, accessories etc. It shows that fashion is really a hobby for you and a very strong one. Only when you care about something very deeply you can come up with creative and artistic way of talking about them without boring the others to death. I find this in a lot of food blogs as well, where as you read the description you can almost hear the oil sizzle, the spices pop and sputter. I admire your ability do bring your clothes to life and wish you all the best. :)

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  52. i love your bow belt rebecca!!!
    Will you PLEASE post a tutorial of how you made it???

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  53. you should do a tutorial on how you made that belt! it is really neat! i really wish your dress would be restocked at modcloth, it is so cute!

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  54. P.S. I really like when you just have your photos juxtaposed with poetry. I think simple things like that can say way more about a person then a really personal anecdote.

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  55. I am with you on the privacy thing. I write a little bit about my personal life on my blog but if I do I keep it more about me to keep my friends and family, who aren't interested in being featured, private.

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  56. That background is absolutely stunning! Oh man.

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  57. I admire the distance you've kept on your blog; I think too much personal stuff can seem like oversharing and is a potential risk in the future. It's nice to know bits about your day but not really in depth things about love lives or people who are making your life hell; I guess you need to keep it professional as you never know who's reading.

    Kb from I Want You To Know
    xx

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  58. I love your photos, always, but the flowery trees in these are ultra nice. Love the bow!

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  59. While I do let some personal aspects into my blogging, for the safety's sake and for the sake of others in my life, I keep it at random glimpses. I don't want anyone to know how I spend every minute of my day, that freaks me out.
    I'm glad you are sharing your gorgeous photos and pretty dresses with us...

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  60. Ooooh I just love this outfit! Great dress!

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  61. Totally agree with your sentiments, I always try to leave out more personal things when I blog. But sometimes it can't be helped; there are some private matters that overlap with my outfit posts. In those cases I suppose I just try to be as discreet as possible.

    The Clothes Horse dress truly is beautiful. (: it's ironic that they made you a dress that, as you say, is not in your usual color palette...but in fact suits you perfectly.

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  62. Uhoh, I am completely guilty of sharing my private life. But my reasoning is that I have been blogging since I was...15? Something like that, back when it was Open Diary, then Livejournal, and now my current blog. I've never considered myself a style blogger, though I guess I may have made the transition to that role. I always kept a blog as a way of keeping in touch and keeping a visual log of my daily life, feelings, etc.

    I completely understand why most people don't do this. I guess I just blog the same way I live my life - like a weirdo with her heart on her sleeve.

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  63. completely agree with you on the privacy things, I need to watch this with my blog. I want to keep it chatty, but not so much that I spill everything. There is a balance. I never post up photos of other people, I don't feel right doing that without their permission.

    This dress looks lovely btw!!

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  64. that bow belt is amazing! and that dress doesn't wash you out at all! it looks perfect on you :)

    heyfancypants.blogspot.com

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  65. love it,especially the bow!

    http://loresfashion.blogspot.com

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  66. This is what it's great about blogs:) They reflect a part of us.:)

    I love the part you let us know about you, Rebecca.

    xx

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  67. Love your blog. I especially like your moving photos... :) You have a great sense of style.

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  68. I think the color goes well with your hair!

    And kudos to you for not baring your soul online. I kind of wish I never did, but I guess I can't take that back now, haha.

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  69. I wasn't aware that Spanish Broom grew in Washington. One more parallel between the Pacific Northwest and the desert. My favorite spring blooms.

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  70. I completely understand and agree. I (and those closest to me) prefer that my blog remain more about me and less about them. I think that's the glory of blogging... you can be as much of you as you want to be.

    Stick to your outfits, they are marvelous!

    xo,
    Gracie
    theflipsideofoz.blogspot.com

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  71. I agree with this. Compromising the privacy of others is a fine line... Not many bloggers really take that into consideration. I know I don't, but that is why I hardly talk about my husband beyond his first initial.


    XX.
    Maeko, thereafterish.
    Maeko.org

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  72. The bow belt is gorgeous!

    I totally agree with what you wrote about privacy..

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  73. your point is very relevant but i think you've tackled it well, seems you should reveal a lot or very little! your formula has worked continuously so it would change the feel of the blog if you started suddenly showing us your whole life xx

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