Are You A Webtrovert?

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The lovely Sara from Me and Orla wrote a post about being a "webtrovert" over a year ago--sidenote: look how long it takes me to absorb things on occasion. I'm sure most of you are familiar with the terms introvert or extrovert; the former finding themselves more energized by time alone and the latter more energized by the company of others. Sara proposed a third option: webtrovert, a person who is energized by spending time online (only she spelled energized with a "s" because she's British!). I've often quipped to people that part of the reason I'm good at blogging (or "good online") is because I'm not a suited for in-person interactions. I'm told I'm not horribly awkward, but I often feel quite awkward and find even enjoyable social engagements to be tiring after awhile. Living in the countryside I think has rather exasperated the situation because instead of being forced to get better at social interactions, I can escape from most of them! But I clearly do like talking (in the form of writing) and sharing and connecting with others; otherwise I could just have set this blog to private or kept a secret journal on my laptop. I think the webtrovert option is a good descriptor of those like myself who enjoy being alone, but still crave some sort of connection and finding kindred spirits online. I've found so many lovely women who inspired me over the years through blogging; most I've never met in person but have made as deep an impression as anyone. However, in some ways I still don't feel true webtrovert either since even the enjoyable interactions online become wearying to me after a time, or maybe it's just the volume you get once you reach a certain level of visibility. Lately, I have been feeling very drained by virtual interactions, my inbox on Instagram is overflowing to the point of being overwhelming and a few bad apples in an overfull barrel of very good apples is tingeing harmless interactions with apprehension. Turns out even online I need a break sometimes from the social aspect! Still I quite like the term webtrovert because it concisely explains that phenomenon of the shy, private introvert who decides to plaster the web with photographs of their face and life. It seems like a contradiction, but for many of us, it works. Do you think you're a webtrovert as well?
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23 comments:

  1. Interesting idea but a webtrovert is, I suspect, mostly consisted of introverts... maybe not but a lot of bloggers seem to admit to their introversion.

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    1. Agreed; I think webtrovert isn’t a contradiction of introversion, but rather an expansion of the term.

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  2. I like the idea of a webtrovert. I definitely think I am one. I’m very introverted in real life and thrive online! ❤️

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
    http://charmainenyw.com

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  3. I'm just a plain introvert, but I do enjoy reading your blog and leaving some kind words for you so: it's ok to need a time off from everything, anything can be bad if you get too much from it. Greetings from Mexico!

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  4. I'm definitely a shy introvert. I've been working through my anxiety issues a lot recently, but very much understand that I cannot deal with too much socializing or stimulating activities. I have a hard time keeping up with my social media accounts (which I use to post my art and not really socialize)so I know that I'm not a webtrovert. xP

    I do find the science of introversion and extroversion quite interesting though. A lot of people think that introverts are shy, awkward beings who don't like to socialize, and extroverts are the complete opposite. From what I've been reading, that's not true. Introverts can be party-loving and great socializers just not in the same way that extroverts are because the introvert will get over-stimulated from that sooner. You can also have socially awkward, shy extroverts who think they're introverts because they feel calmer when they're not around lots of people. Introversion and extroversion has to do with dopamine and acetylcholine and how your brain responds to them.

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  5. I’ve never heard about this webtrovert but it seems so fitting! I’m an extremely private and reserved person but I love sharing peeps into my everyday life through social media and even find writing about daily things to complete strangers cathartic. On a side note you look like a summer fairy. I’m quite tiny too but you always make me want to try maxi dresses out !

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  6. There's something about the romance of blossoms that make long skirts seem just the perfect thing to waft about in. I'm definitely a pretty complete extrovert though I do enjoy my days with the house to myself. Don't have the patience for engaging extensively online, I think because it seems a bit slow and slogging to type/write all my thoughts and replies out. Hope you're having a fab time States-side!

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  7. Hmm, very interesting point of view. Honestly, I’m still not sure what I am. To me, I feel very much like an introvert but others see me as an extrovert. But maybe this new term: “webtrovert” is more fitting.

    A few months ago I was talking about this with a friend. She introduced another term as well: ambivert. It means: a person who has a balance of extrovert and introvert features in their personality. I guess that, along with some features of an webtrovert is more fitting when it comes to me.

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  8. Wow, this is so true. With the way we have evolved l, webtrovert is very fitting for a lot of us. I’m still an all around introvert, but I know some lovely webtrovert

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  9. This post really resonated with me as it reflects my experience exactly...the oddness of a relatively private, reserved person choosing to share (seemingly big, but in reality, quite small) parts of her life online, along with sometimes feeling suddenly wearied by that and needing to switch off entirely. I’d never heard the term webtrovert before but it makes perfect sense to me - thank you for writing about it.

    I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had a few bad experiences recently. Wishing you all the good apples, Florence x

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  10. I've never heard of the terms webtrovert before, but I can happily say that I am one. I've never felt comfortable saying that I am an introvert because I do tend to get quite lonely, but social interactions can be a bit draining. So yeah, I'll stick with webtrovert!

    On a side note - I adore your photos. They're so whimsical!

    Lizzie Bee // www.hellolizziebee.com

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  11. I feel the same. I do enjoy connecting with people on the internet but it can still get overwhelming, especially when you're confronted with, well, less positive stuff. Though, the beautiful thing about internet is meeting other introverts and realizing you're not alone in a world full of extroverts and it's okay to need time alone :)

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  12. This is very much me!!! As years progress, I find that being around people is soooo taxing and tiring, I need to take it really very slow and only immerse myself in large parties once in a blue moon. But usually thrive online, and really enjoy making web connections and interacting through blogs or instagram. Lately, just like you, I've been feeling a wee drained by my own online presence - the aspect of my career where I NEED to put myself out there and market my books A LOT - does get draining after a while, and since January I've been at it non stop to the point I nearly had a break down this week. Sometimes I also find I need to put some distance between me and the online community

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  13. I find that a lot of bloggers are introverts. I think something about the platform really lends itself to introversion (getting to think over and chose your words must definitely be part of it).

    I'm definitely an introvert, but relate heavily to the "webtrovert" definition.

    rhymeandribbons.com

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  14. I feel like I am totally the same way
    xo
    www.laurajaneatelier.com

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  15. I know exactly what you are saying. I'm not one for large social settings, and just ache to go home an snuggle up to my husband and watch a good movie, read a book or knit whan I am out. I socialize quite well, but it doesn't come natural to me. However - I do love to rant on oon the web. :-D Seing as my blog and instagram really isn't that big, (and writing in Norwegian, I suspect it never really will be) I do not suffer the amounts of inquiries as you possibly seem to get, being that you are quite big in social medias. But I can imagine that would wear me out as well, as generally in life, loads of e-mails gets me drained... I think in many ways you have described me to a T in this blogpost - haha.

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  16. Yes! This term and description fits me perfectly. Different kinds of social interactions can take such toll on my energy.

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  18. Since I am an extreme introvert, I can relate to your story completely. I wasn't exactly like this before I moved to England 15 years ago as I recall. I used to enjoy going out to meet my friends or mingle with bunch of people I met through social clubs etc back in Korea, but people can change to the extreme over time as in my case. I still do often enjoy blogging and talk to the people I met online / offline but it can be straining after a while just as you said. I think the part of the reason for that is, I try too hard to please others when I'm with other people other than my family. As a "people pleaser", it can be quite daunting and tiring to deal with the whole situation at times. I probably take things like this a bigger deal than it should, but that's also a part of my nature.
    Even an introvert needs a vent though like we all need to socialise at some point as naturally humans are social animals in a way. Only some of us don't feel the need to go wild. I enjoy quiet life most of time and just because I spend a lot of time alone, it doesn't mean I'm bored, either. In fact, it is the opposite - there are just too many things I'd do! Everybody's different after all.

    Anyway, I'm sorry for babbling so much but I just wanted to say I can totally relate to your story, that's all. Enjoy your day, Rebecca! :)

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  19. Introvert? Check. Own a blog? Check. Social contacts online easier than irl? Definitely. Never thought about it like that, but I guess I'm a webtrovert too :P And as always I love your photos, great Hufflepuff-coloured dress <3

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  20. Oh my goodness! What a thoughtful post.This is the epitome of me, but I never knew there was a name for it. Thank you for this!

    You and your blog are positively radiant! I will be commenting a lot more .

    ~Laurali Star

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  21. I love that you've posted this, because I feel the same way. I'm a very private person, but also creative and I want to share my interests, I just never get the nerve to speak up. I also think I express myself better, or maybe easier, through writing than conversation. I find social situations exhausting, while I find blogging to be invigorating. Shy people can be interesting too, we just need the right platform to help people get to know us.

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  22. Wow, this really hit home! What a clever little way to explain what I think a lot of us feel these days. I'm also so grateful to have met so many kindred spirits thanks to social media, and I feel I'm able to be more personal online than in person lol go figure!

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