Paradoxes Of Blogging


One commenter astutely pointed out there was something amiss in my thinking when I stated I didn't feel comfortable wearing a sheer blouse out around physical human beings, but I clearly felt comfortable posting the pictures online. It is a paradox, but I still hold to what I wrote/said. For some reason online much of my innate shyness and self-consciousness vanishes. Partly, it is because I don't feel the weight of people's attention. When you write a blog you can't see who's looking at you and it's more like writing to yourself than talking to thousands of strangers. This might be in my head, but I do feel that walking down the street in a sheer blouse would turn heads (and not in approval) and I frankly, wouldn't feel comfortable with that. I also feel this effect would exist in small town and in a big city...although I did get fairly comfortable with unwanted stares while in Sapporo, Japan where short, pale girls were few and far between. Part of me was able to accept that attention because I knew I was the oddity and I could understand the reason people couldn't help looking at me. I feel quite differently when I'm visiting New York and I still feel as if I am getting significant attention; there seems far less legitimate reason for people to be looking at me and thus without an easy answer behind their curiosity my mind leaps to unwelcome theories that leave me uncomfortable.

Back to feeling comfortable posting online while turning bright red in the presence of a few strangers: I control exactly how I am presented here. I take my own pictures and ruthlessly cull those that don't meet my vision for that day. Want another irony? Part of the reason I shoot in secluded spots is because I dislike people being around when I'm taking my pictures. It's odd enough to set up your tripod and then pose for it; observation of said act is neither necessary nor desired. Yet, once again we have a strange paradox: a girl who dislikes being observed and photographed, openly shares numerous, daily photographs of herself. One explanation: as the creator of the images I often feel the photographs aren't about me, the subject but rather the outfit and the location; I care more about the overall look of the photograph (composition, location, lighting) as I do about my face and figure in it.
Although, the whole blog has made me more comfortable with the clothes I wear and posing for camera (even when someone else is occasionally behind it), and perhaps it has even made me more comfortable with myself (or I have become more comfortable with myself and the blog merely reflects that...). It's nearly a version of the "observer effect" or changes that the act of observation will make on the phenomenon being observed. My blog gives me a pleasant excuse to wear the clothes I want to wear and inspires me to try new things. Am I occasionally only wearing things in order to record the process, or "experiment?" Perhaps, but I don't try things out because I feel there will be some blog-related benefit to a style experiment, but rather as an opportunity for personal growth by stepping outside of my comfort zone and trying new things. The "observer effect" (as I am abusing the term) has led to me being more comfortable in different clothes. Numerous ventures outside of my usual realm have led to habitual styles that I find myself returning to with ease rather than intentional effort. Ultimately, if I'm still wearing the clothes what really makes that outfit and decision different from another girl who has similar motivations but allows the reasons behind their wardrobe to remain in the subconscious instead of endlessly analyzing things? After all, it is as much my desire to experience, record, and analyze that draws me to blogging as my enjoyment of the creative process of styling, photographing, and writing. Again though, is the blog driving me to change my style, or do I drive myself and blogging it is secondary?
Even if my reasons for certain outfits aren't entirely organically from myself, I still make the final decision on what to wear and how. Besides all of that: what is organic thought? What theory or idea has appeared in our minds that has not been influenced or inspired by all our observations and experiences? But this post is getting awfully long-winded and convoluted...I just wanted to write a little on some of the paradoxes and theories running around in my head lately.
I agree it is odd that I can feel comfortable in a sheer blouse online where more people have the potential of seeing me than I do in real life where my interactions and observers are more limited. Unfortunately, exploring the reasons behind that is like opening a can of worms...






Outfit details:
Hats in the Belfry hat
vintage dress
UO belt
Target tights
Bloch wedges & filigree ring via Gilt
The Quotation airplane ring

This dress has become one of my favorite pieces to wear regardless of the season. Here's a few ways I've worn it in the past.
*Thanks for everyone's wonderful feedback thus far. One point to clarify: I seem to have implied I don't wear my outfits out in real life all of the time; I did not mean to imply that. I meant: I would not wear the clothes out if I didn't have a blog to remember them on. I still wear all the outfits you see here out and about in my life.
It is just that in the process of recording our realities we alter them. What I would choose to wear if I did not have a blog would be different than what do you see me wearing on the blog. However, what I wear on the blog is also what I wear in real life. These are my outfits. Photographs are a motivation to dress nice, these aren't "photoshoots" constructed to showcase outfits I style and don't live in.

CONVERSATION

75 comments:

  1. I completely agree about how you feel about blogging. Not seeing your audience almost lets you feel more at ease with what you post.
    Half of the things I write on the internet I would feel foolish saying in "real" life and I can see how you would feel the same way with some your outfits.

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  2. Your words opened my mind and it made complete sense. That's how I felt (and feel) when trying to get outfit pictures and that's why I stopped. I'm shy in real life, why wouldn't I be online? Thank you so much for this post, it has inspired me to try to get more daily outfit posts.

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  3. I completely agree with you. I am quite different online to real life - I say different things, I think differently and I'm definitely not as shy!
    This post really made me think...

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  4. you already know how i feel about this, but i feel exactly the same way and i struggle with a lot of these same thoughts. also, i really like the outfit with the sheer top. it was daring, but in a good way!

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  5. I definitely agree with you - I'm such a shy, awkward person in "real life" but it's so easy to be more confident online. Very thoughtful post and I love your outfit, pairing the dress with that belt gives it new lines that are fantastic.

    PLASTIC LETTERS

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  6. Interesting insight into your process and evolution, stylewise. I love this outfit and these photos. Fantastic!

    Sarah Yvonne

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  7. I think this is a great post. I agree with a lot of the things you've said here, although unlike you I have to say I have not yet been brave enough to post outfit photos even on my blog, even though it's a component that I would really like to add

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  8. I find this look very 'Anne of Green Gables.' Did you have an specific inspiration?

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  9. i think it makes complete sense that you are more comfortable posting a photo of yourself in a sheer blouse online than walking around that way in town. part of the reason, i think, is that the people who will be reading your blog are people who appreciate fashion and recognize a lacy blouse as relevant in the current fashion climate (and are accustomed to the sight of other bloggers in various stages of undress), whereas people on the street may just be confused. in photographs, you reserve the right to editorialize your life.

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  10. Amazing outfit. I loved the reflection.

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  11. I know exactly how you feel!
    To be honest, I live in fear that people I know in real life may stumble across my blog, and see how I really am - I don't feel like I can act like my self out 'in the real world' because people are far too quick to judge, but i find that people in the blogging world are all in the same boat and know exactly why you're how you are and do what you do.
    Love this post! it's so inspirational :)

    www.toplaydressup.blogspot.com

    -Emily.
    xxx

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  12. Great post. I often feel the same way and have, on occasion, photographed myself in clothing that I could never wear in public. I also hate the unwarrented stairs that lead to only negative thoughts on my part. One time, I wore leopard print tights out shopping and I felt like I hate a gaping wound on my face because of all the strange looks I was recieving.

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  13. Another reason it makes sense to feel more comfortable posing online in a certain outfit rather than wearing it walking down the street, is the audience - the people coming to your blog obviously love fashion, love self expression, and look forward to what you have posted. Unlike random people on the street, who may be quick to judge, more close minded, and less into fashion & personal style. Obviously it makes sense to feel more comfortable in an environment where you are confident that MOST people (I know there are still meanies on the internet) will be supportive & encouraging!

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  14. a really interesting analysis of blogging and why we do it. i find it much easier to be adventurous when i write than i do when i'm going through my wardrobe picking an outfit to wear in 'reality'. hopefully my online confidence will make itself felt in real life soon enough!

    jess-shepherd.blogspot.com
    xxx

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  15. Thank you for posting this. I completely identify with what you are saying. I'm still too shy to post outfits. I've put them together at home but don't wear them out; embarrassed that I'll draw attention to myself. But when I see people out and about who are well dressed, I admire and envy their style and confidence.

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  16. I didn't read the comment and am not going to dig for it now but...was it really astute? Isn't this all a little obvious? The quasi-anonymity of the Internet? Anyway, I understood the issue without having to ask!

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  17. i dont think you have to explain yourself .. i knew exactly what you meant in that post and in this one . i loved the sheer blouse, i wear mine quite often.

    you look great here by the way

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  18. Amazing outfit, and great post! I can definitely identify with you. it's a lot easier to be free of worry when you can't see your audience. :)

    xoxo,
    valerie
    beauty and the budget

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  19. The reason why I started following your blog was this kind of posts, where you share your mind! It was pleasure to read this post! And sometimes I'm asking myself too if I changed my style a little because of blogging. I'm not sure but definitely I wear clothes more creatively than I did before, and that makes me feel good.
    I hope you understand what I think - sorry for my english (:

    Peace and love!

    Life.Style.Fun.
    Life.Style.Fun.Shop.

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  20. Wow! you completely read my mind about this subject. Very well put, that's exactly how I feel, it's just hard to put into words when asked about it directly. Writing things down is so much easier!

    Love the hat by the way!

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  21. I think that blogging helps a lot of people who are generally shy (myself included). You are allowed to say things in a post that you might not have the guts to say in person because the blog is your own - a diary, if you will. The personal space of a blog allows one to experiment, try new things, or even play dress up in outfits you wouldn't necessarily wear in your everyday life.
    I liked the sheer top, and it was more drapey-romance than sluttiness. My advice would be to disregard comments like that. Your blog is stylish and personal and it's that personality that has made your blog as popular as it is.

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  22. mmhm, mhm, mhm. I agree with all those who've commented before me!

    excellent post!

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  23. omg!! i totally know how you feel!! and i think that you have expressed it so so perfectly.. i seriously just published a post in my blog relating and questioning the differences of the 'real and online' world. you just really explained it more comprehensively.. it was such a good read to go thru the whole post coz i was contemplating on publishing my post regarding the matter.

    and i can totally relate to the irony of finding a secluded place to take photos.. my friends even offer to take photos of me with their better and more advanced cameras but i guess, for me it's not really about the quality of the photos, but more of the outfit itself and how i can comfortably wear them and show to my readers how i wore them. the weird thing about having someone take my photo is that i end up being more self conscious and photos don't turn out to be as natural.

    aaahhh.. this was good.. thanks rebecca!

    Animated Confessions

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  24. I still cannot wrap my head around how people can feel free to make comments about your wardrobes' status. It is YOUR clothes and YOUR style, you are sharing it out of courtesy not for brash suggestions, I could not handle criticism!

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  25. I tottally understand what you're saying... There are things that I would hesitate to wear outside but I know I would feel more comfortable if I posted a photo in my blog..! And espesially about the people when you're taking photos,I feel the same too.. I don't have any problem that followers see my photos but I feel embarrassed to pose in front of other people,maybe because I think they will think weird of me... But in the end,the people that read your blog are people that share the same interests with you and have the same taste in fashion for example,and they won't judge you the same way that those other people would...

    You always seem to take really nice photos so don't worry,it's fine!! My problem is that I can't take photos of myself so I can't post photos of me frequently..

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  26. Being online and connecting with like-minded supportive bloggers and Twitterers who appreciate what you're trying to do--that can make you much braver online than in real life.

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  27. I know what you mean completely! And here's something else (!) to add, how do you feel about your friends and other people you know knowing about your blog? I feel like I have had to censor a lot of what I say on my blog since somebody found out about it and told others... Is it weird that I'd bare my soul to strangers, but not those I know?!

    http://itscohen.blogspot.com/

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  28. I completely understand all of this. For one I feel uncomfortable taking photos in public but like you am happy to share them online. Similarily I understand how you could be braver to post an outfit online than to wear it in public, but then although you are posting your photos on the web for the world to see, it is generally a selected audience of fashion interested people who therefore are more likely to understand the outfit, in public, the possibility of the audience to be dominated by fashionable people is less likely, and that could leave you feeling awkward. I however don't get in this situation much as I don't really own anything I'm not comfortable wearing in public, but also I go to art school and theres a lot more crazier people there than me so I really could wear anything there and feel great in it.

    I enjoyed reading this post and you look really cute in the pictures.

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  29. I feel very much the same about blogging. Before I started, I actually avoided photos as much as possible. I hated the somewhat permanent nature of a photograph and could not commit myself to that moment forever in time. Some people can’t accept that I shy away from attention, thinking that because the way I address may attract attention means I want it. I dress for myself and if that causes others to look, then so be it but that is never my intent.

    I don’t know most of the people who read my blog, and I think that makes me feel more comfortable with it…although my hesitancy in telling people about it doesn’t exactly generate traffic!

    Santina
    http://stylebysantina.blogspot.com/

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  30. It's strange isn't it? Much like all the other commenters above me, I understand how you feel. I'm quite shy too and when I'm with a big group of friends, I'm probably the most reserved with my thoughts...and I also quite like my own company!

    I've also only ever taken pictures in an open space once before for the blog...and I was so scared of a random person walking along and spotting me. So I understand you picking a secluded spot to take your photos!

    At the end of the day, most people read blogs because they want to read about real people- not models. Once you get into this mentality, you soon forget the worries of not being model-like...and fully embrace the world of blogging. It certainly worked for me!

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  31. wow, I appreciate how honest you are in your response to this topic. It's once that I contemplate quite a bit myself.

    I think it's great to experiment with things and try and test your boundaries via the blog world and you may feel safe that way because it is a fairly safe and accepting community.

    The other thing that should be brought up is that you were not trying to hide the fact that you weren't exactly comfortable wearing the blouse in public - in fact, wasn't that the point of your post really? It's true control is the operative word when it comes to blogging.

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  32. I know what you mean.
    I am also sort of paranoid about someone seeing me in the process of taking outfit photos. I do not have the benefit of endless nature, and thus usually do shots at my own dwelling.
    I am not shy, though...for me, the discomfort is mostly a nervousness that to an observer, the idea of an outfit shot appears to be an incredibly narcissistic activity. Maybe it is, but I don't want to be caught in the act of loving myself.
    And you looked so cute in the sheer blouse. I think that smaller people can get away with 'sultry' looks without attracting unwanted attention.

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  33. this is very well said. when you write, i can just hear your voice, you are such a poetic writer and thinker! i would have to agree with you one hundred percent. i'm also very uncomfortable around the camera. i try to choose places where i can be alone to take my photographs. i have to agree with experimenting with clothing. ever since i've started my blog, i've been more comfortable going outside of the box with my wardrobe. thank you for sharing this lovely post! always;L

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  34. I think that is so true! (All of it)
    What you said about wearing things in order to experiment for personal growth is really spot on. That's definitely how I feel as well.

    However I really do think you could probably wear that sheer outfit around without attracting too much attention, although it would definitely depend on the occasion and location.

    Also, your photos in this post are fantastic! The focus and the wind- perfect.

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  35. first, you have such a gorgeous smile. it really lights up an entire picture.

    i feel the same way about blogging. i was kind of terrified today when my dad came home and i was in the middle of taking pictures. yet they are the same pictures that are going on the internet? it is odd. but i could never even pretend to understand human nature. haha but i'm a philosophy major & i think i can identify to the way your mind goes and goes. thanks for sharing!

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  36. You pretty much wrote what has been going on in my own brain. Since moving to this new house there pretty much isn't a secluded area to take my photos, which is kind of unsettling even though I've taken my own photos for years. I'm getting better at doing it around people but I'm always afraid they'll come up and ask me what I'm doing, which is kind of hard to explain to someone who doesn't know about fashion blogging.
    And I do that too, wear outfits for the blog which may not be practical or comfortable for real life, simply because I sometimes like wearing crazy stuff, and it lets me branch out without having to deal with stares.

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  37. You are beautiful, period. It is so common to have inhibitions when other people are around but blogging lets you be your true self regardless of who is actually watching. It's the ultimate honesty.
    xoxo

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  38. i agree with you about posting pictures of yourself - you dont have to watch anyone look at you...its a weird phenomenon.

    i follow and absolutely love your blog and would love it if you checked mine out!

    http://www.ivoryinklings.com

    alex

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  39. It's funny, but I think most bloggers feel the same way about blogging. We can be more real, more us ~ because in our minds, we are speaking to an audience of one. Us.

    It's like our blogs are a mask that allows us to speak {or post outfits we wouldn't wear in public} or perhaps alternatively, our blogs come from a place behind our masks where are you are face to face with just you.

    To me, blogging is almost like standing on the stage of an empty auditorium ~ I am speaking/showing pictures/interacting with the empty space of the web. You do not really expect anyone to be watching, and even if they are, there is still that sense of annonymity that I know that I cling to.

    It's all very intreuging.

    xox,
    b. of Depict This!

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  40. So true, I get horribly awkward with other people taking a photo of me, but taking one of myself, I don't know what it is, but I can disconnect from the end result. That being, the possibility of it being seen. It's so true about how much of this we do feeling as if it's only for ourselves. I just don't think too much about how many other people might see it. It seems like a reality alternate to mine.

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  41. Sometimes the hardest things to explain are the ones that make the most sense to ourselves. I think all that matters it that you're comfortable with it. Fantastic dress. :)

    www.mandydiec.blogspot.com

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  42. I completely agree. A lot of things I wear on the blog have no place in 'real' life. I can't walk to school in chunky platforms. I can't wear long coats in the summer heat. I can't wear pretty dresses everyday simply because it's not practical.

    The blog is a good way for me to vent creatively and document these outfits.

    I also get really self-conscious when people pass by and I'm taking photos. I never really realized that it was such a paradox until I read this. How funny!

    B from A plus B

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  43. I love the way you write.
    You got a fan in Tijuana, Mexico.

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  44. I would agree that while our opinions and individual interpretations of ideas are organic, the idea itself is,at least loosely, a reaction to some pre-existing catalyst. That's what makes fashion so fun! We're all reading the same book but are on totally different pages!! :)

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  45. You couldn't be more right about blogging. Those are the same reasons why I don't really want my friends to find my blog xD.

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  46. I'm not surpised to see you have so many comments on here. It's always interesting to see a fashion blogger open up and reveal some insecurities. From the pictures, it seems you have none. I was also wondering who took you pictures. I always feel more comfortable taking pics in front of a tripod :)

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  47. This was a fascinating post, and one i completely agreed with. First off pictures, NOTHING is more awkward than someone walking in on one of my tripod sessions. And on to subject, I find myself often being more honest and blunt in my posts then i would normally portray in real life. I think because I am given the chance to edit and revise what I am saying I am more likely to speak my mind than hold my tongue. Also the disconnect between myself and my reader makes it easier for me to hide behind my computer and still let my voice be heard...
    Great post, that dress continues to be a favorite of mine, its always nice to see how you style it.
    -indigo

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  48. This is a wonderful post/essay... I enjoyed reading this so much, thankyou! The dichotomy of being alone for your photo session and tapping away on your computer, yet the results are there for the whole world to share.
    And your outfit is adorable, as always.

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  49. I totally understand! I've been blogging since I was 12 and at that time, I was even more of an shy, awkward kid! I felt so comfortable blogging...I was speaking to someone at the other end but at the same time, I felt like I was just thinking out loud without the scrutinizing pressure of society. Nowadays, I feel like bloggers are so much more aggressive and critical but the internet is still a nice outlet for creative expression without heavy scrutiny from your peers (of course that means that you might have to keep your profile low!) I love that bottom second picture. A very familiar painting in the background there. :D

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  50. You know, I didn't even bat an eyelid when you said you weren't comfortable wearing a sheer blouse in front of people and I saw that you had posted the pictures online. I completely agree... you don't know who is really seeing you, but you kind of hope that it's not the endless creepos that exist in 'real life' - it's only like-minded people who appreciate what you're wearing for the fashion, and NOT trying to find your cleavage. Also, in still shots you can make sure nothing is inadvertently showing, whereas in real life if you bend this way or that you might show something you never inteneded to!

    Leia's Delights

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  51. your post is comforting !
    i understand about the sheer blouse...i would only wear a sheer blouse with a bra underneath around VERY minimal people whom are close with me because like you said...about the stares. i can really relate to the stares in the certain areas and feel ok with stares elsewhere. . and it's nice to know that bloggers are "normal" lol esp one as creative as you are! things always feel safer online though, you have the screen protecting you while you are in the comfort zone of your home =/ . i've met plenty of friends online and they are def more nicer&quiet in person lol, including. keep bloggin!<3

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  52. i like your reasoning. i feel like people find it hard to admit that theyre more comfortable on the internet, but its very true!
    i love your outfit/style/blog :)

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  53. i love these photos and the warm colors of you dress :)

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  54. These photos are remarkably well composed! I can barely manage to get myself in the picture half the time, let alone be artistic about it heehee.

    I agree with you about the paradox, although I am sort of surprised someone called you on that issue! It doesn't actually strike me as odd. Just like people can be much more mean when given the anonymity of the internet, there is a certain shield that the computer screen provides!!

    Also, wow, great remixing of that dress!

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  55. I absolutely agree with all what you have said...Taking pictures of yourself (especially when it's an outfit post), in a crowd of people who don't keep their eyes from you, is kinda awkward (i mean people stare makes you think of what they were thinking 'bout you) and instead of focusing, you end up limiting yourself, not trying new things out of your comfort zone to experiment...

    i'm glad that you've discussed this topic....

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  56. You have a very nice blog. I love the article that your write. I had fun reading it. I also like all the photos that you post. You look so gorgeous in that dress. Your choice of location is perfect.

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  57. Well, it took me some time but I finally decided to comment. I'm new to your blog and to the blogosphere in general. I just started my own blog that is not fashion-related but has another personal, "stylewise" attitude...

    Your post correlates so much to a recent post of mine.I would love it if you just took a couple of minutes from yout time to check my newborn blog and if you feel like it even comment on it. (Don't expect too much, when I'm saying newborn I mean it literally!:))

    ps I think I will start using the term "the sheer blouse effect" to describe such general phenomena related to blogging(of all kinds including mine!)

    http://unheard-vox.blogspot.com/

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  58. What an absolutely gorgeous blog you have! I love that outfit!
    Love
    Aimee
    x

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  59. I totally understand the whole "control over our image" thing we enjoy as bloggers. It's true we feel more at ease when we know our audience consists of like-minded people.

    However, I feel awkward posting outfits that are purely experimental, ones I wouldn't wear "as is" in real life. I treat my blog as a style diary, documenting my actual outfits, and as fun as it might be to spend an evening experimenting with the contents of my closet in front of my bedroom mirror, I would feel like I'm lying to myself if I posted these outfits without having wore them in public first.

    Of course all this is just the way I personally treat my blog. Many fashion bloggers out there post "experimental" outfits almost exclusively. I enjoy reading their blogs immensely.

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  60. This is a really interesting question about blogging. Very thoughtful post.


    Christy of Dress Rehearsal

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  61. I blog precisely because it's not like real life. In real life I don't even talk about fashion very much. My friends aren't generally interested in it, and though I know it's stupid, it makes me feel shallow. The internet is wonderful for having a controlled audience: there may be some people who don't like you or what you have to say, but generally they just click away, and you don't have to see them smirk. The street is an entirely different matter....

    http://rubyslipperjourneys.blogspot.com

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  62. I love that hat!
    I definitely don't like people to be around when I'm taking photos of myself either.

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  63. These pictures are absolutely gorgeous, and I'm in love with that whole outfit!

    And I agree with everything you said in your post. You hit the head on the blogging nail.

    -Juliette WhereForArtThouRomeo

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  64. well said rebecca:). u should write a book u know. a classical one. i think u could. i would definitely buy it haha

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  65. this is such a fantastic post. i'm not much of a writer but you have pretty much summed up in words how i feel too. i am quite shy in real life & yet put myself out there on the www. i often question the irony of it. it's good to hear there are those similar.

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  66. Ahh, this makes perfect sense to me. Word. :)

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  67. Late posting since I've been away..but I think I was the commenter? Anyway, the funny thing is I'm opposite. I don't have a problem with a sheer blouse around town in the evening, but had I a blog I'm not sure I would post it as it would be a far more public persona. Weird, huh?

    @chicspace

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  68. how amazing that the piece is so versatile! I love how you wore it this time, but I really love how each time it looks nothing like the last time you wore it! That's a great dress to have!

    http://lisafergus.blogspot.com/

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  69. fantastic post, you're one of the few bloggers that doesn't often address or contemplate blogging and just gets on with it! but i think this was needed as coming from a large city i always wondered the reactions to fashion and style in the places you've lived and how you feel about your readers and you must have many followers, and you actually wear your outfits out rather than creating them! it would be different though if lots of your peers read your blog i bet, i'm worrying when i go back to uni that now people actually know fashion blogs exist, some people may have seen mine and hopefully don't think it's something vain rather than like you said something that helps your style evolve. ps of course still catching up on google reader!xx

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  70. Agree. Agree. When someone mentions an online matter offline (compliments on a picture, blog, etc), it is so weird to me. I get shy and nervous. So much pressure in the real world....lol

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  71. OMG so funny! Me too. I feel very self-conscious sometimes because of my (extreme?) interest in what I put on my body. I try to tone it down a lot depending on where I'm going. Around art types, fine, I wear what I want. But around others, eh, they already think I'm weird enough.

    But, oh, it must mean something if there's a whole group of us hiding away in our rooms trying on outfits the world will never see... What does it mean? I think I'm just super creative and self-expressive - odd, then, in a world that rewards automatons.

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  72. I full heartedly agree with you. I am pretty new to the blogging scene and feel the same way entirely. Additionally, when posting on a blog, the context/ situation/ social norms are irrelevant but in real life, these elements matter very much when we chose the clothing and ways in which we will portray ourselves.

    also, LOVE how you styled that one dress in 3 entirely different ways!

    feel free to check out my blog too! :)

    http://girlinthepoodleshoes.blogspot.com/

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  73. This is somewhat like my 'Mean Reds' post, and I truly relate.. When people look at me (because in a small, small town, especially on a military instillation as I'm sure you can relate to), a gal with long hair, high heels, and vintage dresses or really... just anything that isn't jeans and a shirt garter attention.

    Often, I felt that the attention was a cruel, snide remark sort of thing, like 'who does she think she is, trying to wear that?' bit.

    Truthfully, I love the way I dress, but were it not for my blog, for the positive reinforcement if you will, I doubt I'd have the guts to say 'you know what? I like this outfit on myself and just because it isn't the norm doesn't mean that it isn't lovely!' It's such a blogger cliche, but honestly, the support gives me confidence in comparison to walking out the door and hearing a snicker from your parents 'Amber... seriously? Are you going to wear that? We're just going to the farmer's market!'

    Fashion is and always should be self expression, creativity, with our bodies as our canvas.

    Forgive my novel here. I was just really excited to read something I could agree with. (Very well written post, by the way.)

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