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Outfit: Ride On


I always joke that when you meet a blogger it can be really awkward because what they're good at is being online. The face-to-face interactions--speaking instead of writing--can be difficult. If after all, we were big talkers, people who needed to be around other people all the time (perhaps textbook extroverts) then we wouldn't have ended up on our computers at 2am pouring out our hearts to the Internet and editing pictures we took early in some quiet, isolated corner of a park (or in the early days snapped in the privacy of our own bedrooms/dorm rooms). I joke because the above is true for me. It's not that I can't function in society or seem really socially awkward when you meet me (or at least I hope not), it's just that it is hard for me to put myself out there in person. I find it hard to insert myself into conversation, meet new people, or even meet up with familiar faces--I'm quick to find reasons (excuses) as to why I have to stay home. Moving compounds the situation, there are less familiar faces, and being abroad means there's a slight cultural barrier. Occasionally even a language barrier with accents and unfamiliar words ("craic" being one of my favorite new words). I've lived here for over a year now, but many days still feel like day one when it comes to connectedness. It's on my mind a lot at the moment since we are heading into the season where people spend more time than ever with friends and family; gathering over big meals and around tinsel-strewn trees. It's like being a kid at summer camp and getting a letter from your mother, "are you eating your vegetables, are you cleaning behind your ears, are you making friends?" Except you're not a kid at summer camp who will go back to their home and old friends in a few weeks; this is your life now and while you will still see old friends on occasion, they can't be part of your day-to-day. But I'm working on it. It's just like riding a bicycle; you might be out of practice for having been off the bike for few months or years, but the rudimentary skills are there and in no time you'll be flying down those hills with the wind in your hair...

                                                                    Choies blouseModcloth skirtsheer stockingsMejuri rings, old shoes, Modcloth thermos

16 comments:

Cori Hicks said...

Well, said. Being blogger or even someone who doesn't socialize often can be difficult to intentionally spend time and make new friends, ESPECIALLY in a new place. However once those relationships are planted, take root, grow, and bloom it makes us thankful for that first step despite the awkwardness(:

Alba said...

I love everything in this outfit!!

You look very beautiful :)

XO Alba

Joanna said...

I think being married has helped me get over some of my social anxiety. It's nearly as frightening to go somewhere new or unfamiliar if you got together. At least for me, I feel like I can be a lot more of myself when I know that at least one person there is on my side. Plus, if the event is dud you can just hang out together and not even bother with the other people. Haha.
I really love your hair right now. The choppy lob and bangs really suit your style and seem to transition nicely with different outfits.

Annika said...

I can totally relate to this, especially since I just move to the other side of the world myself. I find I'm way too comfortable just sitting inside chatting with my "old" friends on messenger, it might be hard to find new ones... Also there are so many nice people online, I might not need more IRL friends, really... ;)
Love that blouse by the way, I might need to get something like that myself!
Have a good day!

Sian Thomas said...

I know exactly how you feel on this one - I'm introverted too (although I also hope I don't come across too socially awkward in person!) and I think that's why I started blogging in the first place too. I find it exhausting spending lots of time with other people and have to really push myself if I'll be meeting new ones or having to make conversation with people I'm not normally around.
On another note, I've always loved your outfits but the ones recently have been gorgeous, and the photography too - I'm finding myself pinning every single one of them! I think it's the autumn scenes in the background that I was wishing I had more of a chance to enjoy, but it's always dark by the time I get home from work - ah well, I've still got the weekends!
Sian xx Rebel Angel

Kim Hunt said...
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Kim Hunt said...

I can related to the challenge of feeling disconnected and lost in a new place. Each country does have its own culture/vibe/philosophy/angle on life. I moved to PA right around when you moved to N. Ireland. I am from Canada, so I didn't expect there to be that many differences. Difficult to articulate, but you hit it on the nose - its just a feeling of not being able to connect as easily.
I can also relate on missing Thanksgiving - it already passed in Canada as ours is in October. You will have to do something to celebrate it and bring Thanksgiving to N. Ireland! I made a point to make Thanksgiving treats for my friends here in October :)
(Or do they have Thanksgiving in N. Ireland?)

Around Colours said...

I feel the exact same way! I'm such an introvert and I find it so hard to be social. And I also love your outfit!


Marta - www.aroundcolours.blogspot.com

Rebecca, A Clothes Horse said...

@Kim Hunt, yeah there are so many small changes even if you go somewhere far apart in the same country--like I moved from WA to NC and then Hawaii when I was younger and each one almost felt like a different country. It's hard too sometimes when the countries are similar and speak the same language because people are less prepared for culture shock/the minor differences to wear on you, but it's still totally new and takes adjustment. And there's no Thanksgiving in NI; that's a thoroughly North American tradition, but I am planning my first Friendsgiving for later this month so fingers crossed that turns out ok!

Rebeca Garcia said...

I know exactly how you feel. I do not like to be in social situations, and try to avoid them at all costs. I am so awkward around New people, and it doesn't help that I have anxiety. Anyway, I love your outfit and admire your style. You are my favorite fashion blogger and I always look forward to your posts. :)

Rebeca Garcia said...

I know exactly how you feel. I do not like to be in social situations, and try to avoid them at all costs. I am so awkward around New people, and it doesn't help that I have anxiety. Anyway, I love your outfit and admire your style. You are my favorite fashion blogger and I always look forward to your posts. :)

Rosa Fairfield said...

So true, I find that people think I'm really outgoing when they read my blog and then they meet me in real life and are surprised.

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Laura Mitbrodt said...

Your blouse is so cute! I love the embroidery
xo
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Junaberry said...

Your post really spoke to me. Thank you for writing it. x

Sora said...

I can totally relate! It's very hard for me to meet new people and I have like mini anxiety attacks when there's too many people involved .<;

Alex Donnelly said...

Just for your own piece of mind, you come across just lovely! Looking forward to Friendsgiving this year and to embracing all your kooky American traditions!